Making It Through
Evelyn Falco
The
Lord has been with me through three losses which greatly impacted my life. Faith in the Lord has helped me to overcome hurt,
disappointment, and the feeling of failure.
One
such ordeal was when my three grandchildren were taken away from me.
They had been living with me because their father
was in prison and their mother had died after battling breast cancer. I had a notarized power of attorney
legalizing my care for them.
One
morning after I sent them off to school, their mother's sister (their aunt) and
her fiancé went to court and obtained an ex-parte court order that stated I was
an unfit grandmother which was very untrue.
The judge granted them custody and gave them a court order allowing them
to take them out of school with a sheriff's escort. The school had to release them. This aunt had only known the older of the
three children - a girl 14 years old who refused to go with them so she was
returned to me. I was unable to even say good-bye to the other two before they
were taken to live in Louisiana. I cried
and prayed day in and day out seeking the Lord's help.
I
travelled back and forth between Florida and Baton Rouge, Louisiana to be able
to see the children. I spent lots of
money on traveling, lawyers, courts, and counseling. I felt so helpless, so useless, like I was a
failure. I thought I would lose my mind and, perhaps, not be able to endure
it. I would give all my problems to God,
but then I would take them back. I did
this many times. Finally I asked God, "Why me?" and I
heard his answer, "Why not
you?" I had forgotten He was
still present. I started to realize God
was in the midst of what was going on and knew what was going to happen before
I did. I began to realize the truth that
this was the way because He had allowed it.
I was able to stop the tears when I recognized that God had me in His
hands. I have not seen or heard from my
grandchildren in almost 9 years, but I know that God keeps them safe and
sound. And they will find me when God
says it's time.
My
second trial came when my longtime and dear friend was snatched away from
me. After my husband had died and Otis
had divorced his wife, we began to communicate often with one another. He
lived in Charleston, South Carolina and I lived in Winter Park, Florida. I would visit him there from time to
time. Although neither one of us had any
desire to get married, we were friends for many years. In time he began to show signs of dementia. I
was able to help him keep track of his business affairs. He actually even mentioned the possibility of
marriage at that time. His daughter
became fearful that her father would be giving me too much control over his
life. For this reason, she formulated a
plan to keep us from being in contact with one another. She took his cellphone away - telling him he
had lost it. She then sent him to live
with people in New York who were strangers to him. He was, however, able to sneak out and call
me. We both missed the companionship we
had shared for so long. Once he even ran
away for days, but, Praise God, he was found!
He loved the Lord with all his heart, and he had remained in His
care. After all this, I came to realize
that God was still in charge no matter how hurt or disappointed I was. I began to feel the Lord's presence - knowing
he was still with me. I went through and
conquered this storm with the help of God once again.
The
third and last episode was very different.
I now trusted right away in God providing needed strength and His
knowing the plans for me. I no longer
asked why. Due to financial problems, I had to leave my
home of 25 years. However, having to
relocate was hard since I had felt very secure and comfortable with my life the
way it was. Even so, I passed through
this happening without falling apart - believing it was all for good even if I
did not understand. I have since come to
recognize that God did not say yes to this, but did let it happen - because it
was a different life I was to live. I
had to give up some independence in order to become more humble as we are
supposed to be. Since my relocation, I am
now aware that there was a good purpose in all of
this.
These
occurrences in my life have helped me to learn these lessons.
Put God first in your life and do
not lean unto your own understanding.
Trust in the Lord always.